Sunday, November 20, 2011

What If...???

      Recently, ABC's Nightline profiled four beautiful, professional, single women about why they believed they were single.  While they were able to point to a number of valid aspects, the more palpable issue is that there are simply more single women, then there are available men. 

It is estimated, that of the 95.7 million single Americans, over 65% of them are now women.  Now if we subtract the men who are incarcerated, gay, or otherwise not available, there are still going to be a number of women who will remain single, no matter how hard they fight it.

A recent New York Times article quoted that a staggering 51% of American women now live with out a spouse.   Professor Stephanie Coontz from the Council on Contemporary Families, (a nonprofit research group) says, “ This is yet another of the inexorable signs that there is no going back to a world where we can assume that marriage is the main institution that organizes peoples lives.  Most women will marry, or have married, but on average, Americans no spend half of their adult lives outside marriage."

At one end of the age spectrum, women are marrying later, delaying the choice for family, while dedicating time to their careers.  At the other end, women are living longer as widows, and after divorce are more likely than men to delay remarriage, and in most cases delighting in their newfound freedom.  

Such is the case with our four professional singles.  Faith may have it that these women may never be married. Not even they know what their reality holds.  The vital question needed to ask is… 

“What if…???”

What if… they never make it down that isle?

What if… their biological clock ticks away? 

Then the only question remaining is ... Then what???

1 comment:

  1. I think the answer is to find happiness and contentment WHERE YOU ARE NOW! Not easy, when society "pressures" you to date, find a mate, and get married. But you cannot be happy with someone else, if you are not happy with yourself, by yourself. I embrace and enjoy my singleness - and applaud my friends who have truly found happiness with someone else. Good for them, but good for me for loving my life as it is...right now.